public speaking topic: HOW DO I COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY WITH OTHERS?

assalammualaikum and a very good morning for SIR KHAIRUL NIZAM SHUIB and beloved friends. hye! im YASMIN AZRA KHAIRULL ANUWAR student AB101 part5. i want to share some topic that familiar with our daily life. everyone can communicate perfectly with other right? so today i wanna to share and discuss about my topic "HOW DO I COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY WITH OTHERS?".. Here are seven simple and easy tips to communicate effectively: 

1. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don't try to be coy when you're attempting to be clear in your communication. You're not running for a political office.

2. Do what you say and say what you do. There's nothing more frustrating than a person who makes a bunch of promises, but never puts them into action. Be accountable for what you say and earn respect by backing it up with your actions.

3. Own your internal experience. Your thoughts and feelings, needs and wants, likes and dislikes are valid and legitimate. That means identify what is going on for you inside yourself, learn to language it and find the courage to express it. Ownership implies that you know and believe that you are okay with who you are and how you experience and react to your inside and outside worlds. Other people do not have to understand or agree in order for your experiences to be valid, legitimate and respected. This is about you!

4. Don't discredit the feelings of others. Remember that other people's feelings are also legit. You may or may not understand, but please respect their experience(s). If you need to respond to a person you may agree to disagree, but remember this is about them! This is not about you.

5. Pay attention to needs. When a need is unmet it becomes an issue. We have many opportunities to experience and express issues in our marriages. Common ways to respond, although unproductive and harmful, are to complain, blame and criticize. Next time you experience an issue try making a request. Identify what you need or want or what you want someone to do or say differently, then make a request. Focus on what you want to happen instead of what isn’t happening or what happened that you didn’t like.

6. Tell your whole truth. Notice I didn’t say the truth. Your truth is your recognition of what you are experiencing inside yourself and outside of yourself at any given moment. If you are experiencing an upset over your spouse or a disappointment, you may know or understand less about what you are experiencing than at other times. Find the courage to say as much as you can about what you think, feel, need and want. When you have more clarity or additional knowing be sure to share them with you spouse.

7. Be a good listener. Listening is an essential and valuable skill. Becoming a good listener takes time and practice and is enormously appreciated by others. When you are engaged in a meaningful conversation, say to your spouse, "Tell me more." This is a special invitation that conveys your interest and intention to listen. 

Communication is one of the essential parts of creating rich, meaningful marriages. Communicating verbally and non-verbally in a kind, responsible and respectful way furthers understanding, a sense of feeling valued, respected and cared for and increases intimacy and trust. remember! only you can make it happen. that all, thank you.

why do i feel nervous in front of the public and how i overcome nervousness?

assalammualaikum and a very good morning to all of you especially to our lecture SIR KHAIRUL NIZAM SHUIB. im YASMIN AZRA KHAIRULL ANUWAR student diploma in business management part 5 want to share my second topic for my assignment is "why do i feel nervous in front of the public and how i overcome nervousness?". this is difficult right? okay i don't mind it. everyone have a feeling of nervousness right? it is NORMAL. But sometimes it make we feel uncomfortable to show our confident and can build some negative thinking to do it. I never really thought much about a lot of things, and life was just easy and went on worry-free. I always was shy, and wished to be more outgoing, but it didn't ever really bother me that much. 
     I can see why people are afraid of speaking in front of a group. i standing up there alone. All of those eyes are fixed on me. Their ears are tuned to every word i saying. i really feel vulnerable. Naked. No place to hide. all this things already happen to me before this so it make to be a crazy person but even i feel like that it can make me to practice how to build a confident level to stand up there alone! i like its! 
     how i overcome my nervousness? okay the first thing that i do is i will make sure that all audience didn't see my nervousness when i standing up there that is because it want make them confident with my speech when my turn is around. i also must prepared! Obviously. If i have a presentation then study my notes and i was understand what i want to share about. second is, Practise, practise, practise. The more i practise it, take action and put myself in situations that may make i nervous the more confident that i get. i have been there before, i know pretty much what will happen. So i feel more and more comfortable and less nervous. 
     the third is i Realize that people don’t care that much about what i do. One big source of nervousness is focusing too much on what people will think of me. And thinking that their criticism is always about me. But people don’t think that much about what i do. i keep much of my attention from day to day on my problems, challenges and triumphs. And that’s exactly what the next guy/girl is doing too. for conclusion do not make our nervousness effect our performance in future. that all thank you. 

informative speech: HOW TO BE A GOOD LISTENER

assalamualaikum and a very good morning to our lecture sir KHAIRUL NIZAM SHUIB and to beloved friends. im YASMIN AZRA KHAIRULL ANUWAR student business management (ptm090502805) want give some information speech about "how to be a good listener". 

    Before i start my speech i want to asking you some question. do you know how to be a good listener? who want to be a good listener?. okay listening is an essential part of communication, and it is different from hearing. Being a good and patient listener helps you not only at work or home, but also to see the world through the eyes of others, thereby opening your understanding and enhancing your capacity for empathy. 

    to be a good listener you must have this fourth step. the first step there is place yourself in others person shoes. that means to be a –active listening is not about inward thinking but you must look at the problems from the other persons perspective and actively try to see his or her point of view. –It is not good idea to consider yourself to be smarter than the speaker and assume that you would have been in or her shoes, you would have seen your way through the problem much faster. –Remember you have two ears and one mouth for a reason.

    for the second step is create a conducive physical and mental space. you must remove all directions and give all your attention. you also must turn off your phone because may easier to arrange to talk somewhere that distractions will not occur. you also must quiet your mind and open yourself to whatever the person might have to say. for the third step is stop talking and try to be silent. It might sound obvious and trite, but one of the biggest obstacles to listening, for many people, is resisting the impulse thoughts. Put aside your own needs, and wait for the other person talk at their own pace.

    and for the last step is Follow the encourage the speaker with body language. Nodding your head will indicates you hear what speaker is saying, and will encourage them to continue. Adopting body postures, position and movements that are similar to the speaker will allow the speaker to relax and open up more. for conclusion you must have follow this step so you can know how to be a good listener. that all, thank you.