public speaking topic: HOW DO I COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY WITH OTHERS?

assalammualaikum and a very good morning for SIR KHAIRUL NIZAM SHUIB and beloved friends. hye! im YASMIN AZRA KHAIRULL ANUWAR student AB101 part5. i want to share some topic that familiar with our daily life. everyone can communicate perfectly with other right? so today i wanna to share and discuss about my topic "HOW DO I COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY WITH OTHERS?".. Here are seven simple and easy tips to communicate effectively: 

1. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don't try to be coy when you're attempting to be clear in your communication. You're not running for a political office.

2. Do what you say and say what you do. There's nothing more frustrating than a person who makes a bunch of promises, but never puts them into action. Be accountable for what you say and earn respect by backing it up with your actions.

3. Own your internal experience. Your thoughts and feelings, needs and wants, likes and dislikes are valid and legitimate. That means identify what is going on for you inside yourself, learn to language it and find the courage to express it. Ownership implies that you know and believe that you are okay with who you are and how you experience and react to your inside and outside worlds. Other people do not have to understand or agree in order for your experiences to be valid, legitimate and respected. This is about you!

4. Don't discredit the feelings of others. Remember that other people's feelings are also legit. You may or may not understand, but please respect their experience(s). If you need to respond to a person you may agree to disagree, but remember this is about them! This is not about you.

5. Pay attention to needs. When a need is unmet it becomes an issue. We have many opportunities to experience and express issues in our marriages. Common ways to respond, although unproductive and harmful, are to complain, blame and criticize. Next time you experience an issue try making a request. Identify what you need or want or what you want someone to do or say differently, then make a request. Focus on what you want to happen instead of what isn’t happening or what happened that you didn’t like.

6. Tell your whole truth. Notice I didn’t say the truth. Your truth is your recognition of what you are experiencing inside yourself and outside of yourself at any given moment. If you are experiencing an upset over your spouse or a disappointment, you may know or understand less about what you are experiencing than at other times. Find the courage to say as much as you can about what you think, feel, need and want. When you have more clarity or additional knowing be sure to share them with you spouse.

7. Be a good listener. Listening is an essential and valuable skill. Becoming a good listener takes time and practice and is enormously appreciated by others. When you are engaged in a meaningful conversation, say to your spouse, "Tell me more." This is a special invitation that conveys your interest and intention to listen. 

Communication is one of the essential parts of creating rich, meaningful marriages. Communicating verbally and non-verbally in a kind, responsible and respectful way furthers understanding, a sense of feeling valued, respected and cared for and increases intimacy and trust. remember! only you can make it happen. that all, thank you.