public speaking topic: HOW DO I COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY WITH OTHERS?

assalammualaikum and a very good morning for SIR KHAIRUL NIZAM SHUIB and beloved friends. hye! im YASMIN AZRA KHAIRULL ANUWAR student AB101 part5. i want to share some topic that familiar with our daily life. everyone can communicate perfectly with other right? so today i wanna to share and discuss about my topic "HOW DO I COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY WITH OTHERS?".. Here are seven simple and easy tips to communicate effectively: 

1. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Don't try to be coy when you're attempting to be clear in your communication. You're not running for a political office.

2. Do what you say and say what you do. There's nothing more frustrating than a person who makes a bunch of promises, but never puts them into action. Be accountable for what you say and earn respect by backing it up with your actions.

3. Own your internal experience. Your thoughts and feelings, needs and wants, likes and dislikes are valid and legitimate. That means identify what is going on for you inside yourself, learn to language it and find the courage to express it. Ownership implies that you know and believe that you are okay with who you are and how you experience and react to your inside and outside worlds. Other people do not have to understand or agree in order for your experiences to be valid, legitimate and respected. This is about you!

4. Don't discredit the feelings of others. Remember that other people's feelings are also legit. You may or may not understand, but please respect their experience(s). If you need to respond to a person you may agree to disagree, but remember this is about them! This is not about you.

5. Pay attention to needs. When a need is unmet it becomes an issue. We have many opportunities to experience and express issues in our marriages. Common ways to respond, although unproductive and harmful, are to complain, blame and criticize. Next time you experience an issue try making a request. Identify what you need or want or what you want someone to do or say differently, then make a request. Focus on what you want to happen instead of what isn’t happening or what happened that you didn’t like.

6. Tell your whole truth. Notice I didn’t say the truth. Your truth is your recognition of what you are experiencing inside yourself and outside of yourself at any given moment. If you are experiencing an upset over your spouse or a disappointment, you may know or understand less about what you are experiencing than at other times. Find the courage to say as much as you can about what you think, feel, need and want. When you have more clarity or additional knowing be sure to share them with you spouse.

7. Be a good listener. Listening is an essential and valuable skill. Becoming a good listener takes time and practice and is enormously appreciated by others. When you are engaged in a meaningful conversation, say to your spouse, "Tell me more." This is a special invitation that conveys your interest and intention to listen. 

Communication is one of the essential parts of creating rich, meaningful marriages. Communicating verbally and non-verbally in a kind, responsible and respectful way furthers understanding, a sense of feeling valued, respected and cared for and increases intimacy and trust. remember! only you can make it happen. that all, thank you.

why do i feel nervous in front of the public and how i overcome nervousness?

assalammualaikum and a very good morning to all of you especially to our lecture SIR KHAIRUL NIZAM SHUIB. im YASMIN AZRA KHAIRULL ANUWAR student diploma in business management part 5 want to share my second topic for my assignment is "why do i feel nervous in front of the public and how i overcome nervousness?". this is difficult right? okay i don't mind it. everyone have a feeling of nervousness right? it is NORMAL. But sometimes it make we feel uncomfortable to show our confident and can build some negative thinking to do it. I never really thought much about a lot of things, and life was just easy and went on worry-free. I always was shy, and wished to be more outgoing, but it didn't ever really bother me that much. 
     I can see why people are afraid of speaking in front of a group. i standing up there alone. All of those eyes are fixed on me. Their ears are tuned to every word i saying. i really feel vulnerable. Naked. No place to hide. all this things already happen to me before this so it make to be a crazy person but even i feel like that it can make me to practice how to build a confident level to stand up there alone! i like its! 
     how i overcome my nervousness? okay the first thing that i do is i will make sure that all audience didn't see my nervousness when i standing up there that is because it want make them confident with my speech when my turn is around. i also must prepared! Obviously. If i have a presentation then study my notes and i was understand what i want to share about. second is, Practise, practise, practise. The more i practise it, take action and put myself in situations that may make i nervous the more confident that i get. i have been there before, i know pretty much what will happen. So i feel more and more comfortable and less nervous. 
     the third is i Realize that people don’t care that much about what i do. One big source of nervousness is focusing too much on what people will think of me. And thinking that their criticism is always about me. But people don’t think that much about what i do. i keep much of my attention from day to day on my problems, challenges and triumphs. And that’s exactly what the next guy/girl is doing too. for conclusion do not make our nervousness effect our performance in future. that all thank you. 

informative speech: HOW TO BE A GOOD LISTENER

assalamualaikum and a very good morning to our lecture sir KHAIRUL NIZAM SHUIB and to beloved friends. im YASMIN AZRA KHAIRULL ANUWAR student business management (ptm090502805) want give some information speech about "how to be a good listener". 

    Before i start my speech i want to asking you some question. do you know how to be a good listener? who want to be a good listener?. okay listening is an essential part of communication, and it is different from hearing. Being a good and patient listener helps you not only at work or home, but also to see the world through the eyes of others, thereby opening your understanding and enhancing your capacity for empathy. 

    to be a good listener you must have this fourth step. the first step there is place yourself in others person shoes. that means to be a –active listening is not about inward thinking but you must look at the problems from the other persons perspective and actively try to see his or her point of view. –It is not good idea to consider yourself to be smarter than the speaker and assume that you would have been in or her shoes, you would have seen your way through the problem much faster. –Remember you have two ears and one mouth for a reason.

    for the second step is create a conducive physical and mental space. you must remove all directions and give all your attention. you also must turn off your phone because may easier to arrange to talk somewhere that distractions will not occur. you also must quiet your mind and open yourself to whatever the person might have to say. for the third step is stop talking and try to be silent. It might sound obvious and trite, but one of the biggest obstacles to listening, for many people, is resisting the impulse thoughts. Put aside your own needs, and wait for the other person talk at their own pace.

    and for the last step is Follow the encourage the speaker with body language. Nodding your head will indicates you hear what speaker is saying, and will encourage them to continue. Adopting body postures, position and movements that are similar to the speaker will allow the speaker to relax and open up more. for conclusion you must have follow this step so you can know how to be a good listener. that all, thank you. 

fasilitator style lahh!~

assalammualaikum.. hye all! lame tak updates post kan hai maklum la bz untuk bape hari nihh (poyo je kan ayat macam bz sangat je) haha! biase la kalau tak bz bukan YASMIN AZRA KHAIRULL ANUWAR namenye.. kadang tu memang aku bz betul tapi kadang2 ade jugak hari yang aku buat2 bz.. motif je kan!

hmm.. dekat seminggu lepas aku tibe2 je kene balek alor setar tercinta dengan tibe2 sebab ade kem! saket je hati aku dengar bace post yang di updates oleh kawan aku AZRUL IKHWAN@WAN tu.. habes cuti time relax aku macam tu je dalam mase yang sangat singkat pulak tuhh! haishh.. mule2 aku beron sekejap tapi lame2 pikir alahh biase la tu name lagi aku yang tergedik2 offer diri nak jadi fasi so kene la terime akibatnye kan.. yang tension nye kan kem tu WAJIB pegi pulak sure la aku takde pilihan nak tak nak aku kene la balek alor setar jugak..

sampai hari waktu 21/06(rabu) aku maseh blurr macam macam yang aku pk sebab kem yang aku pegi nihh wajib untuk semua fasi fasi.. yang lawaknye semua balek dalam keadaan yang kelam kabut ade jugak yang baru sampai pagi2 sebelum betolak pegi puncak breast, sik. kalau aku yang sampai satu hari sebelum tarikh tu pon dah penat ni kan orang yang sampai hari yang sama nak pegi kem tu sure lagi la penat! dah la jauh nak mampos!

masuk masuk je dalam bas aku takleh nak tido walaupon gantok tak tau la same ade aku excited atau aku getaq bak kate orang utaqa ni ha.. haha! kalau ekotkan aku 50%-50% nak pegi sebab dengar citer orang tempat tu agak 'KERAS' so makin menjadi la takot aku dengan line pon takde memang hampeh giler la tempat tu.. haishh. saket je hati tapi kan kalau ade line pon aku bukan nak msj dengan sape2 so bile pikir2 balek buat penat je aku merungut banyak2.. hehe!

bile sampai2 je tempat tu aku terus terkejut! bukan terkejut sebab bende yang negative tapi sebab pemandangan tempat tu sangat cantek sampai tak terkate ape pon.. tu la bukti kekuasaan dan kebesaran ALLAH SAW kat muke bumi nihh.. macam tak percaye giler kot aku dapat pegi tempat yang cantek macam tu free pulak tu semua kolej support so memang best n enjoy la kite orang "bercuti" kat sane.. haha. jangan jeles oke!

hari first sampai sane dah banyak aktiviti yang best macam macam la pengalaman baru dan l;ame yang aku buat.. ape2 pon tersangat la untung dapat pegi kem tu! macam bertuah la pulak aku nihh.. malam pulak kami semua buat luahan hati one by one.. ade yang happy sedih biase2 macam2 perasaan la ade.. bagi aku kami semua dah macam adek beradek! tu yang pasti.. aku yang banyak masalah ni tibe2 je aku lupe semua hal tu untuk beberape hari.. cukup indah dan tenang sangat2! (poyo la ayat aku nihh) :P

hari kedua pulak kami semua kene kayak satu tasek memang pegalaman yang sangat berharga dan menaek kan confident level aku time tu dari penakot terus jadi berani n teror berkayak! dulu takot2 nak kayak tapi hari kedua tu kami semua kayak sampai tak ingat dunia dengan hitam hujan lebat lak tu.. time tu jugak kami singgah kat pulau mane tah kene jungle tracking pastu pegi mandy air terjun yang bestnye tempat yang kiteorg pegi mandy tu tempat raja sakti(orang kaya yang duk dalam pulau kat salah satu tasek kat puncak breast tu)..hanye orang2 yang beruntung je dapat jumpe raja tu.. haha!

hmm.. rasenye dah cukup kot untuk hari nihh aku membebel! see u next posting oke.. bye2! <3 <3 <3

two week (@_@)

assalammualaikum............

hmmm.. rasenye dah nak masuk dua minggu aku sepi menyepi kan diri

bukan sengaja tapi untuk kebaekan bersame.

cehh! ayat macam haprak bak kata orang utaqa!

hahaha.. bia jela aku tak kesah pon ape istilah digunakan

janji sama maksud semua aku bedal je!

agaknye kan la MANUSIA tu sedar tak ape yang jadi

hmm.. aku sendiri pon dah takleh nak pikir ape 

ini kan pulak nak buat anggapan sendiri.. ofcouse la tak akan!

tapi takpe aku selalu pesan kat diri sendiri..

YASMIN THINK POSITIVE OKE!!

rasenye tu yang paling baek kot..

saket hati nak menyumpah yumpah tu memang ade 

tapi kite sebagai umat islam hamba ALLAH

pengikut NABI MUHAMMAD tak perlu kot semua tu..

bak kata orang tu sembahyang zikir semua tu adelah pengubat ketenangan

dan itu lah yang aku amalkan sekarang..

alhamdulillah segalenye berjalan dengan lancar walaupun 

ade sedikit kedukaan yang teramat sangat

aku berharap berdoa agar segale ujian yang diberikan

akan berakhir dengan kegembiraan.. AMIN~

tak mudah nak lupekan semua bende semua hal yang berlaku

tapi sedikit sebanyak itu lah yang memberi kite pengajaran

pengetahuan tentang perangai manusia..

rambut same hitam tapi hati laen laen..

agaknye la kan boleh gune lagi ke pepatah ni?

hmm.. tu terpulang kepade hak individu la..

yupp! aku memang salah but macam biase la

rutin harian manusie.. tak penah lari dari melakukan kesalahan

so kite as hamba allah wajib memohon memberi kemaafan itu rite..

tak elok marah marah simpan dendam tak puas hati la wat ever it is

bermaafan lagi elok rite.. so why dont you do like that? 

paham paham sendiri la yea..

last think aku nak cakap

AISHITERU <3

sekian TERIMA KASEH..

imbas kembali (^_^)

hahaha! tajuk post kali nihh macam haram je kan..

biase la name la 'FLASH BACK'kan!

aku sebenarnye takde point pon nak tulis pasal nihh

motif aku sebenarnye bosan tahap gaban..

GABAN lame aku tak sebut pekataan nihh

last mase aku sekolah dulu agaknye..

eyhhh... lupe lak bagi salamm

ASSALAMMUALAIKUM korang! hehe..

balek pade tajuk hari nihh mood aku bagai nak gile..

macam2 aku pikir

kejap nak gelak kejap nak nages kejap badmud tibe2..

haiyoo.. ape punye mood la banyak sangat!

teringat pulak aku time sekolah2 dulu..

rindu la pulak rasenye dah lame tak enjoy jagi gile2

kua lepak sampai ak reti balek dah macam takde umah je kan..

biase la baru nak kenal dunie luar macam mane..

bak kate pepatah 'TAK KENAL MAKE TAK CINTE' 

hahahahahhahaaahhahah...

tapi betul la bile dah kenal mule la rase jemu

maklum lahh umor dah semakin meningkat ni tak kan la nak 

jadi perangai macam budak2.. sampai bile2 pon tak kan maju

kalau dulu mber baek aku apyz,sue n sara tapi sekarang makin rengang

mayb sebab masing2 dah ade life yang laen2

bz dengan study la katekan maklum la kalau dulu zaman sekolah 

tapi sekarang kan dah masuk zaman kolej..

rase macam cepat sangat mase berlalu..

tapi takpela nak buat macam mane semua orang makin tua kan bukan nye makin mude..

so perkare biase la tu..

now life aku kat ALOR SETAR, KEDAH

macam2 orang yang aku kenal dan macam2 perangai yang aku jumpe!

ade yang boleh buat kawan but ade jugak yang KAWAN MAKAN KAWAN!

lantak kat dorang la aku yang sangat berhati2 nihh pon dah terkene 

so malas aku nak ambek tau bende yang dah takde makne bagi aku

NAD,FARIS,KECIK,ADEK,NIENA,IKMA,NIESYA,

ASSILA,LYA,AM,FAEZ,AIZAT,JIE,SUHAIL,ABE

adalah segala2nya bagi aku..

i love you all bebb! ur are everything to me... (-_-)

tanpe korang takde istilah 'BESTFREN' bagi aku la..

hahahahahhahhahah..

hmm... rasenye dah banyak sangat kot aku bebel kat sini..

okela bye2! :P

mood: sedih :(

hye all...

bape ary nihh aku terase tersangat la sunyi tersangat la bosan

tak ceria macam sebelum ni.. pelik

taktau la nak start dari mane tapi yang pasti mood aku sangat tak oke!

rase2 kan sebab ape eyhh?..hmmm

asal makin ary aku makin tak semangat

makin serabut..

haishh.. taktau ape yang aku pikirkan

pelik je tibe2 aku jadi macam ni

tapi yang pasti aku memang tengah rindukan SOMEONE!

damn! arghhhhhhhh..!!

hope ary akan datang ni aku tak seserabut macam ni lagi

mintak2 esok pagi aku bangun aku akan jadi diri aku yang normal

AMIN.. peace :)

oke lah bye2.. salam